Sunday, June 8, 2014

Dealing With Female Midlife Crisis Effectively

By Sally Delacruz


The age between 40 and 60 years for women comes with a lot of confusion. This phenomenon is referred to as female midlife crisis and requires careful handling. It takes between three and ten years to come out of this phase. Careful handling is required to shorten the time.

Some of the triggers include aging. This is the time when a woman goes through physical transformation. Grey hair may begin to appear alongside wrinkles and other signs of age. Other triggers include problems that may be related to work, relationships or personal image. Health concerns are a major source of worry among women at that age.

There is no uniform trigger or response for all women. Some will experience predicaments because they have a job, while others will worry for not having a career. Others are worried about the nature of their careers while others wish they had a better one or they had pursued whatever they wanted at childhood.

The presence or absence of children is a major concern among women. Their maturity reveals the reality that they will be leaving home soon. This departure makes such a mother lonely regardless of whether they are leaving for school, work or marriage. Faults in their lives cause them a lot of regrets to the extent of blaming their own parenting approach.

Aging or the death of a parent is a source of worry for many women. The relationship changes and the lady seems lost. Death can be devastating because it leaves a gap that cannot be filled by anyone. The idea of having someone to spend holidays with or take children to visit is comforting. Absence brings confusion and causes disarray.

Midlife is characterized by moodiness and strange-eventful occurrences. The woman gets stressed easily and begins to search for lost dreams. She goes back to teenage engagements like clubbing, drinking, dancing or hanging out with old friends. Other behaviors that would be considered as returning include singing and engaging in sports.

The stage comes with a lot of remorse as she feels unaccomplished in life. Life seems to be moving drastically towards an end. This leads to panic and wishful thinking about unaccomplished goals. This becomes the origin of old habits and the company of friends.

There is a feeling of withdrawal which results from the fear of humiliation. A person feels inadequate in the sight of colleagues who are more successful. This also comes with regrets about risks that were never taken and opportunities that were let to pass.

Some of the behaviors to watch-out for include alcohol abuse. This is an escape route as a woman tries to forget or enjoy what she thinks is youthfulness. She may result to acquisition of jewelry, tattoos, clothing and gadgets that are unusual, extravagant and which do not make sense.

Depression is common in women undergoing this crisis. Some will feel unsatisfied with their bodies and pay extensive attention to small things. Some get into relationships with younger men to compensate for absent husbands or fathers. Parents are also insistent on children pursuing their passions in music, arts, sports or excelling in academics. Self acceptance reduces the time taken in this phase.




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