There are days you wake up feeling psyched and bursting with energy, then someone from nowhere does something that leaves you in rage. Such raw emotions have lead millions of people into the most atrocious acts. How do you avoid being emotional or even deal with the feelings when they are about to have the best of you?
Take a deep breath and rethink your actions. This will buy you the few precious seconds that make a difference between a regrettable act and saving the situation. The breath helps you refocus and avoid injuries, insults or damage to property. You reconsider your action and therefore avoid a catastrophic end.
Think for a minute like the person with whom you are angry. Put yourself in his or her shoes and his or her action will become clear. You find justification or explanation for the action that he or she has taken. This does not mean that the action is right but rather allows you to have a 360 degrees view of the situation. You will realize that you would have acted in the same way if you were in his or her shoes.
Depart from the scene. This gives you the space to clean your thoughts and clear the mind over the situation at hand. Remaining at the scene means that your mind continues to be toxic. Negative feelings will boil to an uncontrollable point. Take a break and your reaction will not be as damaging as when you remain at the scene.
Master your thoughts. Any action you take and the feelings that persist will depend on what is going on in your mind. Control the ideas that are being digested on your mind. Avoid being negative. Find a solution as fast as possible. Stop any negative thought whenever it crops up. Such an action will prevent you from acting in a way that you will regret in future.
Reset into your controlled behavior. Each person has a character that guides you on how to react to situations. There are reactions that are not aligned to the character of a person. You must practice restraint in order to turn to it when things get bad. Be the bigger guy in the situation.
Name, acknowledge and accept the feelings as well as their negative impact in your life. The feelings include being hurt, fear, anger and such manifestations. When the feelings have been identified, you will be conscious of negative reactions that could come out of these feelings. This consciousness helps you to manage the situation better.
Engage in self-soothing acts. These acts are unique to each individual. While some people hum tunes they are fond of, others will stroll outside. Other self-soothing acts include gazing at the horizon, tapping the desk and talking to a friend. It is a way of deflecting the negative energy and buying time so as to avoid a nasty reaction. It shields you from regrettable actions in future.
Lean on a reliable support system. Everyone has a person he or she calls or talks to at home, work, or in the community whenever things go wrong. Place that call or go to see the person. A little dialogue or even seeing the person will calm you down and make even the worst situation manageable.
Take a deep breath and rethink your actions. This will buy you the few precious seconds that make a difference between a regrettable act and saving the situation. The breath helps you refocus and avoid injuries, insults or damage to property. You reconsider your action and therefore avoid a catastrophic end.
Think for a minute like the person with whom you are angry. Put yourself in his or her shoes and his or her action will become clear. You find justification or explanation for the action that he or she has taken. This does not mean that the action is right but rather allows you to have a 360 degrees view of the situation. You will realize that you would have acted in the same way if you were in his or her shoes.
Depart from the scene. This gives you the space to clean your thoughts and clear the mind over the situation at hand. Remaining at the scene means that your mind continues to be toxic. Negative feelings will boil to an uncontrollable point. Take a break and your reaction will not be as damaging as when you remain at the scene.
Master your thoughts. Any action you take and the feelings that persist will depend on what is going on in your mind. Control the ideas that are being digested on your mind. Avoid being negative. Find a solution as fast as possible. Stop any negative thought whenever it crops up. Such an action will prevent you from acting in a way that you will regret in future.
Reset into your controlled behavior. Each person has a character that guides you on how to react to situations. There are reactions that are not aligned to the character of a person. You must practice restraint in order to turn to it when things get bad. Be the bigger guy in the situation.
Name, acknowledge and accept the feelings as well as their negative impact in your life. The feelings include being hurt, fear, anger and such manifestations. When the feelings have been identified, you will be conscious of negative reactions that could come out of these feelings. This consciousness helps you to manage the situation better.
Engage in self-soothing acts. These acts are unique to each individual. While some people hum tunes they are fond of, others will stroll outside. Other self-soothing acts include gazing at the horizon, tapping the desk and talking to a friend. It is a way of deflecting the negative energy and buying time so as to avoid a nasty reaction. It shields you from regrettable actions in future.
Lean on a reliable support system. Everyone has a person he or she calls or talks to at home, work, or in the community whenever things go wrong. Place that call or go to see the person. A little dialogue or even seeing the person will calm you down and make even the worst situation manageable.
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